CHOICELESS CHOICE


A subject that frequently arises in my coaching sessions is confusion about making choices. "Should I do this? Should I do that? What should I do? I am afraid I will make the wrong choice."

The question assumes that we actually have control over our choices, but that is another article. When confusion about a choice arises, I prefer to make the Choiceless Choice. This requires letting go of pressuring ourselves into making a decision this red hot moment. The Choiceless Choice is done by making no choice until clarity arises to move us in a certain direction. When excitement, enthusiasm and joy say "yes" to a choice, then you know it is the right direction. Unless that happens, I let it ride as long as possible. If I have to make a choice and a BIG YES hasn't arisen, it is "No, thank you."

-MaxWell

CLARITY IS FREEDOM by Teresa of Avila

"I had tea yesterday with a great theologian, and he asked me,
" What is your experience of God's will?"
I liked that question - for the distillation of thought hones thought in others.
Clarity I know is freedom.
What is my experience of God's will?
Everyone is a traveler. Most all need lodging, food and clothes.
I let enter my mouth what will enrich me. I wear what will make my eye content.
I sleep where I will wake with the strength to deeply love all my mind can hold.
What is God's will for a wing? Every bird knows that."

 

MORE ON FREEDOM

Confusion is suffering. Clarity is Freedom.

I think it was the years of Catholic schooling under the control of the nuns that made my heart so yearn to be free. Freedom became my highest value. As soon as I was able, I left the comforts of home to find freedom.

At first it looked like rebellion. I did the opposite of what I thought others wanted me to do. I was like James Dean in the movie Rebel Without a Cause. Someone asks him, "What are you rebelling against?" James answers, "Whad'ya got?" This was my path for awhile.

At some point I realized that was still being controlled, only in the opposite direction, so I let that go and began to just take in what felt right for me to do. I became more joyous and began to live those words of St.
Teresa.

"I let enter my mouth what will enrich me. I wear what will make my eye content. I sleep where I will wake with the strength to deeply love all my mind can hold."

And I love the question: "What is God's will for a wing?"

"Every bird knows that."

What does every bird know about wings? With them they can fly, attain heights where they have clearer vision, and move to where they most want to be. What gives you wings? What do you know about your wings?
Are you using them?

May your spirit fly high and FREE today and every day.

-MaxWell


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